You Don’t Know Me

Posted by on Sep 20, 2015 in What is Love | 0 comments

You Don’t Know Me

Is it safe for you to tell people who you really are? What you think and feel? Will you be rejected if people learn you are different than them? That you disagree with them? Can people co-exist in a world where they are defined by their differences?

Just like friends of mine who are judged and often rejected because they are black, gay, Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, agnostic, and atheist. In a world where they are subjugated to other’s values and what others think is acceptable they are assessed to be sitting on the fringe of respectability. Is their rejection acceptable to me? Absolutely not!

As a child, being divorced and poor defined who I was. Now, to some people, being successful and appearances of “having it all”, even being a widow defines who I am. People see me, where I live, what kind of car I drive and they think they know me. They don’t know me, what I have been through to get where I am today, or what is important to me. If you want to know what is important to me, and what I think and feel, ask me.

You are important to me. What you think and feel. I want to know how many children you have, how many grandchildren, what you care about, what causes you pain, and what I can do to help. If I ask, “What do you do” it is because I want to know what interests you, not what kind of job you have or how much money you make.

The greatest lesson I have learned about traveling around the world is there are good people everywhere, and that love is about inclusion, rather than exclusion. We live in a world of totality. We are all in this together and are better working together as a whole than we are as unique separate individuals. In order to do that, we have to accept and love each other.

Now you know me.